3.Cheer yourself up.Change is never easy.The addict will probably accuse you of abandoning them or even threaten you.You must realize that this is because the addict does not want the current situation to change,no matter what they say.They need your help to continue the way they have been living,and losing you means they may have to face up to their problems.You are not responsible for them,their choices,or their actions.Don’t expect change will happen overnight,and be prepared for some rough spots. 4.Take care of yourself.It’s not your fault that someone else has an addiction.It is your fault if you allowthat person to ruin your life as well because of their actions. 5.Find a peace within yourself.There are a million ways to do this,but all you need is one.Be at peace with who you are,what you’ve done,and what the world is.